February 19, 2020
Twelve years ago this very day, I became a mom for the first time. I remember looking down in to her bright blue eyes, touching her soft, downy red hair and kissing those pouty little lips of hers knowing that she changed everything.
I saw all the adventures we were going to have together. All the experiences she would have as she grew up. And how we went from two to three in an instant. I didn’t know what her future would hold or mine, but what I did know is our world was going to be very different.
Having a baby (or four in our case), never meant sacrificing anything in my life. Women talk about how they have to sacrifice careers, bodies, social life, sleep, etc, but I never saw any of those things as something I had to give up when I had kids.
My children didn’t mean I had to give up things I loved. What happened is I changed my outlook, seeing the world through a different lens. I was still me, but was also a mother. We did something huge and created life. This allowed us to change the trajectory of our current timeline by adding another person to our journey.
Once the baby is born, your life is changed immediately. There is no easing into everything that will be different now that they are here. Many things happen all at once and this is the one time you have to roll with it, embrace the newness and find the gratitude in your world.
In the last twelve years, I can’t find one sacrifice I’ve made in my life for my kids. Instead, I see their existence as a major part of growth into the person I am now. Each day, I learn something new and I’m well aware they have made me the woman I am today. I wouldn’t be who I am without them. Did I sacrifice in order to have children? No. I embraced the change they brought us instead.
What have you learned from your children?